How many times a week do you think you say "I don't know"?
It may be more than you think.
Where do you want to go for dinner? - "I don't know, where do you wanna go?"
Hey what's wrong? - "Eh, I don't know"
What do you want to do with your life? "I DON'T FRIGGIN KNOW!!!"
Any of these sound familiar?
We say "I don't know" ALL THE TIME. I say it. I hear my friends say it. I hear my clients say it. It's an easy out. It lets our brain and heart off the hook... It's a safety phrase when we're nervous to say what we REALLY want. But the thing is, you know WAY more than you're willing to admit and I've got the 4 secret words to unlock it. Ready? This is life shattering stuff. Deep breath. Okay here's my $1,000,000 answer:
Pretend Like You Do
I say it to clients all the time when they give me a big fat "I don't know" after facing a juicy question. "Pretend like you DO know, what would you say?" Or "Act like you're an expert at it, what do you see?" Sounds kinda simple, right? You would be shocked to hear all of the amazing, thoughtful, BRILLIANT things people come up with when they're given permission to know. Cuz guess what? YOU KNOW.
Where do you want to go for dinner? - "Girl, I want a big fat juicy burger"
Hey what's wrong? - "You really pissed me off when you didn't comment on my new bedazzled tankini"
What do you want to do with your life? - "I want to make gobs of money being artistically fulfilled and never see Winter again"
Try it out. What's something you've been wrestling with lately that you "don't know" the answer to? Pretend like you know the answer. Pretend like you're a fricken EXPERT at the answer. Give yourself 5 minutes to journal about the answer you've "pretended" to know about. How's it look? I just about guarantee it looks better than the blank sheet of paper that's been staring at you for who-knows-how-long.