Gremlins Vampires Demigorgons
No, these aren't the characters of a new Netflix sci-fi 80's themed spinoff... They're creatures we are FAR more intimate with. Slippery, slimy villians that cause so much anxiety, grief, and anguish in our lives, Winona Ryder wouldn't dare tackle them - not even in her best heavily pocketed army green jacket.
These insidious voices aren't behind walls or under beds, and they certainly aren't strangers... cuz they've set up camp in our own heads - And they feed on our dreams. They're the ones that say things like "You're not enough", "They're gonna laugh at you", "You're a fool to even try". Sound familiar? Yeah, I know. We all have them. Me, you, Winona. They speak to all of us.
These voices are there for a reason. They keep us in place. They keep us from potentially getting hurt. They keep us from rocking the boat. SOMETIMES that's a good thing.
BRAIN: Hey you wanna jump out of this airplane without a parachute?
DEMIGORGON: NOOOOO THAT'S A TERRIBLE IDEA! STAY PUT!
But more often than not it looks more like this:
BRAIN: Hey you wanna start that painting you've always been wanting to make?
DEMIGORGON: NOOOO THAT'S A TERRIBLE IDEA! STAY PUT! (you idiot)
SO how do you overcome the voices?
Here's a few steps
1: Acknowledge they exist
Those monsters behind the wall--- THEY ARE THERE. Running around acting like they don't exist is fruitless. Plug in the lights and SHINE it on them. What do they say to YOU? What do they sound like? When do they pop up the most?
2: ACKNOWLEDGE they aren't the truth
They're monster voices. They want you to believe they're always right and will feed on your dreams as long as you're convinced they are the capital T TRUTH... But what if they're not?
3: ACKNOWLEDGE ANOTHER VOICE
Thank my lucky 11s, there IS another voice. It's just as much a part of you as the monsters (though you may not be as good at listening to it). The voice that believes in you completely and without question. That has been there and back again and holds you with WISDOM, COMPASSION, CLARITY and CERTAINTY.
4: DEFY THEM
Do something you want to do IN SPITE of the gremlins. Want to make a painting but you're hearing voices that say you suck? Acknowledge the voice, assert it may not be the truth, key in to that OTHER voice and then make the painting ANYWAYS. The more you defy the monsters, the quieter they become over time. The more you flex the muscles of DOING/BEING what YOU say you want, the better you will become at quieting that demigorgon and sending it running back to the Upside Down where it belongs.
Want some help in the battle, Winona?
It's what I do. It's what I LIIIIIVE FOR
*Thank you for indulging my inner Stranger Things fan-boy. If none of this blog made sense, go watch it and then re-read*