When I say the words "Life Coach" what comes to mind? If you're like me before I experienced coaching for myself it's something like...
A perfectly peaceful far-too-smiley person gallivanting slow motion through a field of daisies spouting out trite phrases of enlightenment to the sounds an uplifting soundtrack.
Yes? No? Just me?
Well today we're gonna clear up some common misconceptions of Life Coaching... The answers may surprise you
Myth 1) Life Coaches Have Perfect Lives!
My response: Hahaha (breath) hahaha. Life isn't perfect. (Total let down, I know) Sadly, coaches don't have the mystical answer to make life great ALL the time. If they say they do... Run away. I can 100% guarantee you (a bold claim, I know) that every life coach has gotten paralyzed by fear of failure, been a dark could of pessimism about life, or just plain acted like an asshole.
"But how could I trust someone who doesn't have it all together?" You ask. Well let me answer your question with another question (I'm tricky that way). Do you want someone on your team who's only capable of understanding the rosy (easy) parts of life? Or someone who has great compassion for the muck and mire (difficult) parts that arise as well and lovingly offers a rope to firmer ground?
Myth 2) Life Coaches are Therapists!
My response: Absolutely not. A good coach will go through hundreds of hours of training by certified masters in the field, but that does not make us experts at everything. There are some things we are not trained (or licensed) to handle. A general rule of thumb is that therapy deals with your past to bring you to a fully functional place in the present, and coaching meets you at that fully functional place and asks "Where do you want to go from here?" A lot of times that process can be very therapeutic, but it's not a substitute for therapy.
Myth 3: You NEED a Life Coach!
My response: Nope. As a coach, I hold to the belief that you are a naturally creative, resourceful and WHOLE person. You on your own. With or without a coach. Read that again: You, right now reading this blog are naturally creative, resourceful and whole. Those things you want to make happen? The answers are in YOU. What a relief, right? Life coaching is there to point a spotlight on those answers and give you tools to EXPLODE that creativity resourcefulness and your whole being on your life and the world around you. You don't need it. But it sounds pretty awesome doesn't it?
Myth 4) Life Coaching Fixes Your Problems!
My response in proverb form: Give a man a fish, he'll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, he'll eat for a lifetime.
Say what? Get ready for some matrix-like thinking: As a coach, I'm not here to give you advice on how to become the world famous chef you're dying to become, tell you how to interact better with coworkers, or buy you a treadmill to help you lose weight. Those are "fix it" answers. Those last abouuuuut 10 minutes to 1 week. I'm here to empower, shine a light on what you rock at, lean you into what you're scared of... so that over time you actually see yourself as BIGGER than your problems. When you're bigger than your problems, you get to reach out and conquer the SHIT out of them... For a lifetime.