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Over the years I have gotten to coach some incredible clients. I thought I would showcase some of them and what they have graciously shared about their experience coaching together (though it's not really a showdown cuz everyone's a winner).

let's get started!




(Cue Price is Right music)

This is Devon (and a cute dog).  Devon is a fearless, BADASS woman. When she walks in the room, you know you're in the presence of a powerhouse.  She's the light at the end of the tunnel that lets you know you're not alone. Singer, songwriter, caregiver extraordinaire and all around bombshell - DEVON!

Here's what she has to say about Kyle Post Coaching:

"I have been with Kyle for about 6 months now...and quite honestly I didn't know how much I needed it until my first session. Money was tight, schedules were busy, and I felt lost. I needed to find direction again. My life has been different since I first walked through his doors.
Kyle doesn't tell you how to feel. He doesn't sit there brooding asking, "and how do you FEEL about that." He doesn't hold you while you cry, rub your back and say, "awwwww." Instead, he helps YOU figure it out. He lets you feel what you need to feel then asks YOU how you want to proceed. He works WITH you together to build that map which helps YOU decide which step to take next whether it be financial, career, love, life...(literally anything).
He has helped me create a Tool Box of life, with many tools that I can access when I need it the most. He has become my unbiased guardian angel, if you will, and I wouldn't trade one moment of my time with him for anything. I notice a huge difference in myself in these few short months we've been together...and I can't wait to continue to grow."

I definitely teared up reading that one.  Thank you Devon for being the kind, trusting, loyal powerhouse woman you are and for sharing your experience coaching together!

Interested in coaching together?

and let's chat

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Fun with Failure

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Fun with Failure

I often start my first session with clients with a question: "What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?"  It's so much fun to hear the list of beautiful/crazy/amazing/inspiring ideas flow freely from them... Another winner is: "What would you be willing to fail OVER and OVER and OVER for?"  Things tend to get a little deeper there when they hone down on what it is in their life that is WORTH facing the thought of failure. 

Today my question is:

What is your relationship to failure? 

Are you buddies? Enemies? Frienemies?

Our relationship with failure can get real dark.  It can cause total self paralysis and self judgement.  It can keep us from doing what we say we want in life. It can make us try to convince ourselves and others that we're actually PERFECT and have never failed and never will fail and Couldn'tEvenImagineFailingEverInOurLivesBecauseWe'rePerfectSoTHERE! (Good luck with that)

Notice I didn't say FAILURE does all of those things.  Failure actually doesn't do ANY of those things.  Our dysfunctional RELATIONSHIP to failure does those things.  OOOOooooooo. 

So what if failure was actually a step closer to getting what you want? If it allowed for learning? What if failure had a feeling of PLAY? What if you could have fun with failure?

Here's an assignment I've given clients

if you're up for it I'm posing it to you:


Go to your local craft/office supply store.  Find the silliest dumbest most Lisa Frank 7th grade Trapper Keeper stickers you can... let's say 50 of them. Carry the stickers around with you at all times, and give yourself a gold star/monster truck/bedazzled dolphin swimming over a rainbow sticker every time you fail for a WEEK and actually try to get rid of all 50 stickers in one week. 

Got pissy with your boyfriend for no reason? FAIL! STICKER! Tried a new recipe for dinner and it caught on fire? FAIL! STICKER! Went to an audition and totally cracked on the high note? FAIL! STICKER! Forgot to count a failure and give yourself a sticker? FAIL! STICKER!

This assignment is not about counting failures- it's about changing our RELATIONSHIP to it so that instead of self-paralysis and not doing what we want to do, we can have a little fun with it and see it's not such a big deal in the first place.  It's just failure.  That's it.  The rest is the story we've attached to it... so go attach a big fat fuzzy sticker instead of the dark story that's keeping you from doing what you love with full authenticity and self expression.

Go fail! Have fun! Let me know how it goes, I'd love to hear


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Top 100 on the Web!


Top 100 on the Web!

The Wildly Authentic Blog was just awarded

"Top 100 Life Coach Blogs on the Web"

By Feedspot 

How fun is THAT?!

Scroll on down past industry leading blog after blog (some of which I follow and deeply admire) and you'll find this 'lil old blog on the list!  #blessed #humbled #cheesyhashtag

When I started this blog just over a year ago I wanted to make something that spoke from my heart that hopefully spoke to my reader's hearts as well.  When I hear from people how something in the blog made them think, or changed their outlook, or gave them a little giggle it brightens my day.

So getting awarded Top 100 Life Coach Blogs makes me all:

Thanks so much for being a part of this blog! I hope you enjoy many more Wildly Authentic (slightly insane) posts to come :)




You Are Judge Judy


You Are Judge Judy

You are Judge Judy

You may not have a gavel or dated permed-bob-hairdo...

But you are Judge Judy

You judge the person who cut you off on the highway.  You judge your co-worker's sketchy Instagram account.  You do.  I do.  We all do.  

But here's where it gets really sinister:

You judge yourself

You judge yourself so much, so often and so harshly.

I recently had an eye opening session with a client who had just started working at a job she'd always dreamed of. While she was fulfilled by many aspects of the new gig,  it turned out some parts of her "dream job" were not so savory: She felt constrained by her workspace, had a bat shit crazy boss, and felt like she was being micromanaged nonstop. 

Her comments looked something like this:

"I should just be grateful for this job, that's what my friends and family keep saying!"

"I want to be positive about it, but I just keep thinking I shouldn't be complaining about a job I wanted so bad!"

I told her it sounded like she was judging herself for not having the perfect experience at her dream job.

She paused and agreed

I asked "What percent of your turmoil here is being caused by judging yourself?"

Cue 30 seconds of radio silence until she finally answered: 


60-70% of the turmoil at her new job was caused not by her boss, or her cramped workspace... but by HER. It was caused by judging how she thought she "should or shouldn't" be feeling.  The second she saw that, the whole thing opened up and we were able to work together to create a life at her imperfect-dream-job that she was inspired by.

We Are Judge Judy

We judge how we're feeling, how we're not feeling, how we should be feeling, how we shouldn't be feeling, what we're eating, what we're not eating, what we should be eating, what we look like, what we don't look like, what we shouldn't look like, what we say, what we didn't say, what we shouldn't say...

and it's FUCKING exhausting

It can be SO exhausting that we aren't able to focus on the REAL problems we're facing because we're so damn busy judging ourselves.


So my questions to you are: 

Where are you Judge Judying yourself?*

What would it be like to let go of the self-judgements?

What space would that create for you?



*Note: Acknowledging shortcomings/taking responsibility are NOT THE SAME AS JUDGE JUDYING* 


Expanding Our Emotional Vocabulary


Expanding Our Emotional Vocabulary

Ever had an emotion that you just can't quite put your finger on?

"It's like... I feel like... you know... ugh, like..." 

Cut to having an existential meltdown in a Starbucks over not being able to pinpoint how you're feeling. No? Just me? 

Turns out, there's TONS of definitions for emotions that we don't even have in the English language.  Get into some of these:

  • Mbuki-mvuki (Bantu) – The irresistible urge to “shuck off your clothes as you dance” (been there)

  • Iktsuarpok (Inuit) – The anticipation one feels when waiting for someone, whereby one keeps going outside to check if they have arrived

  • Shinrin-yoku (Japanese) – the relaxation gained from bathing in the forest, figuratively or literally

  • Sehnsucht (German) – “life-longings”, an intense desire for alternative states and realisations of life, even if they are unattainable

A tool I love to use with clients when they're emotionally tongue tied is EMBODIMENT.

Sometimes our bodies know more than our minds do. They instinctivelly have the answer to our Alexithymia (difficulty in experiencing, expressing, and describing emotional responses).  

Here's a few questions to ask yourself the next time you're feeling emotionally constipated:

"Where do I feel the emotion in my body?" 

"What color is it?"

"Whats is its temperature?"

"What does it make my body want to do?" (Then go ahead and do that)

You might be surprised how quickly the emotional answers come out when you give your body a chance to express them

So what's the point?

The point is - we're not computers... we are, by design emotional BEINGS.  So many times in life we are so concerned with DOING things that we breeze right over how we're feeling.  Taking time to get in touch with our emotions and giving them a name - an embodiment - allows us to fully experience those emotions and move through them.  We get to be humanBEINGS not humanDOINGS... and that allows for more:

Desbundar (Portuguese) – the shedding one’s inhibitions in having fun  

Yuan bei (Chinese) – a sense of complete and perfect accomplishment,

Sukha (Sanskrit) – genuine lasting happiness independent of circumstances





Ok raise your hand if you are obsessed with RuPaul's Drag Race (Kyle unabashedly waves hands in the air like he just don't care).

OK now raise your hand if you watched the finale of Drag Race Allstars Season 2 and GAGGED when you saw Ru and Katya DIRECTLY talk about life coaching skills (cue more waving, finger snapping and lip smacks).

Missed it?

Here it is baby:

Sound familiar?

Kinda like a blog post about STRANGER VOICES?

Drag Life Coaching... could it be the world's newest craze? 




Possibly... possibly





Gremlins  Vampires   Demigorgons

No, these aren't the characters of a new Netflix sci-fi 80's themed spinoff... They're creatures we are FAR more intimate with.  Slippery, slimy villians that cause so much anxiety, grief, and anguish in our lives, Winona Ryder wouldn't dare tackle them - not even in her best heavily pocketed army green jacket. 

These insidious voices aren't behind walls or under beds, and they certainly aren't strangers... cuz they've set up camp in our own heads - And they feed on our dreams.  They're the ones that say things like "You're not enough", "They're gonna laugh at you", "You're a fool to even try".  Sound familiar? Yeah, I know.  We all have them. Me, you, Winona.  They speak to all of us.

These voices are there for a reason.  They keep us in place. They keep us from potentially getting hurt.  They keep us from rocking the boat.  SOMETIMES that's a good thing.

BRAIN: Hey you wanna jump out of this airplane without a parachute?


But more often than not it looks more like this:

BRAIN: Hey you wanna start that painting you've always been wanting to make?


SO how do you overcome the voices?

Here's a few steps

1: Acknowledge they exist

       Those monsters behind the wall--- THEY ARE THERE. Running around acting like they don't exist is fruitless. Plug in the lights and SHINE it on them.  What do they say to YOU? What do they sound like? When do they pop up the most? 

2: ACKNOWLEDGE they aren't the truth

       They're monster voices.  They want you to believe they're always right and will feed on your dreams as long as you're convinced they are the capital T TRUTH... But what if they're not?


       Thank my lucky 11s, there IS another voice.  It's just as much a part of you as the monsters (though you may not be as good at listening to it). The voice that believes in you completely and without question. That has been there and back again and holds you with WISDOM, COMPASSION, CLARITY and CERTAINTY


       Do something you want to do IN SPITE of the gremlins. Want to make a painting but you're hearing voices that say you suck? Acknowledge the voice, assert it may not be the truth, key in to that OTHER voice and then make the painting ANYWAYS.  The more you defy the monsters, the quieter they become over time.  The more you flex the muscles of DOING/BEING what YOU say you want, the better you will become at quieting that demigorgon and sending it running back to the Upside Down where it belongs.

Want some help in the battle, Winona?

It's what I do.  It's what I LIIIIIVE FOR

Email Me


*Thank you for indulging my inner Stranger Things fan-boy. If none of this blog made sense, go watch it and then re-read*



The "I Don't Know" Trap

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The "I Don't Know" Trap

How many times a week do you think you say "I don't know"?  

It may be more than you think.

Where do you want to go for dinner? - "I don't know, where do you wanna go?"
Hey what's wrong? - "Eh, I don't know"
What do you want to do with your life? "I DON'T FRIGGIN KNOW!!!"

Any of these sound familiar?

We say "I don't know" ALL THE TIME.  I say it.  I hear my friends say it.  I hear my clients say it. It's an easy out.  It lets our brain and heart off the hook... It's a safety phrase when we're nervous to say what we REALLY want.  But the thing is, you know WAY more than you're willing to admit and I've got the 4 secret words to unlock it.  Ready? This is life shattering stuff.  Deep breath.  Okay here's my $1,000,000 answer:

Pretend Like You Do

I say it to clients all the time when they give me a big fat "I don't know" after facing a juicy question.  "Pretend like you DO know, what would you say?" Or "Act like you're an expert at it, what do you see?" Sounds kinda simple, right?  You would be shocked to hear all of the amazing, thoughtful, BRILLIANT things people come up with when they're given permission to know.  Cuz guess what? YOU KNOW.

Where do you want to go for dinner? - "Girl, I want a big fat juicy burger"
Hey what's wrong? - "You really pissed me off when you didn't comment on my new bedazzled tankini"
What do you want to do with your life? - "I want to make gobs of money being artistically fulfilled and never see Winter again"

Try it out.  What's something you've been wrestling with lately that you "don't know" the answer to? Pretend like you know the answer.  Pretend like you're a fricken EXPERT at the answer. Give yourself 5 minutes to journal about the answer you've "pretended" to know about.  How's it look? I just about guarantee it looks better than the blank sheet of paper that's been staring at you for who-knows-how-long.

Wanna know even MORE?! (you're a knowing pro now)

Let's chat

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