The Over/Under Performer's Quiz


The Over/Under Performer's Quiz

Remember when we were in middle school and we’d take those Teen Magazine Quizzes on - if you were a popsicle, what kind of popsicle would you be and why?


(I was the crazy one with 20 colors and gum inside)

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback/questions on the past 2 blog posts about OVER doing it and UNDER doing it. People have been asking - KYLE! WHICH ONE AM I?!

Well guess what? I have a quiz for you to find out… You won’t find out which kind of popsicle you are, but you WILL learn valuable information for where you could use a little attention to have your career take off!

Well what are you waiting for?

What was your answer? Contact me and let me know! I’ve got lots of solutions to help with your over/under problem :)


How to Overcome UNDER Doing It


How to Overcome UNDER Doing It

I have a confession to make:

I’m a Gemini. My brain works in contradictions - it thinks this AND that - it sees the value in both sides of the spectrum. So to appease my Gemini brain that I love so dearly, I bring you a blog post on the OTHER side of the spectrum from my post last week about performers who are OVER DOING IT

Dear Eccentric Performer,

Do you have a sneaking suspicion the world is passing you by? Are you a procrastination QUEEN?! Do you have a shit ton of amazing ideas and thoughts and intuitions about the exciting things you want to do with your life… and SOME DAY you will do them?! You SWEAR SOME DAY you will do them… and then turns out “some day” looks more like you eating gummy bears on your couch at 2am watching the Golden Girls with half a bottle of white wine, scrolling through the instagram of everyone else doing the things you said you wanted to do so bad?


If so, THIS blog is for you

Some people in life are GREAT at doing things. They get so much done in a day they can make Beyonce look like… well, like Michelle. When those type of people are out of balance and doing too much, they pay with their BEING as stated in last week’s post. Other people are great at paying attention to their BEING (these people may be found lounging in hot baths listening to Enya with a single tear running down their face thinking how sad and beautiful the world can be). That’s you, my dear. You are GREAT at being in touch with your feelings, emotions, intuitions… the softer side of Sears. When YOU are out of balance… the DOING side of you suffers and you end up stagnate, a wee depressed/anxious about not having the things you want.



I get it. Doing things like GOING to auditions, CALLING your agent, CREATING that one man show you’ve been dreaming of, WRITING that script… it’s scary. It takes such bravery and willingness to fail. But guess what? SOME DAY NEVER HAPPENS. Now THAT’S scary. It never happens. You have to MAKE your some day happen cuz aint nobody gonna do it for you.


1) Take all of your amazing BEING superpowers and infuse them into an idea that excites you more than you can handle. It should make your butt pucker in a good way.

2) Set a goal for yourself that is SMART:

Specific - It’s a real thing that can be seen in the real world that’s uniquely your own

Measurable - There is a date/time/location set for when this will be a successful reality

Accountable - A real life human is holding you accountable to doing these things (not just you)

Resonant - It’s something that makes you feel more like YOU than anything

Thrilling - You stay up at night thinking about it with excitement, and can’t wait to tell your friends all about it



This doesn’t work by thinking about it, reading another book on it, or praying on it over a blood moon my friend. This works by taking ACTION. Let you BEING inform your DOING and you get to HAVE what you want…

Let’s make it ACCOUNTABLE - Write down your SMART goal and email it to me. I double dog dare you. You deserve to live a balanced life - you deserve to have Enya in a bathtub AND the performing career you always dreamed of. It takes BEING and DOING… Now go DO IT!


How to Hit UNDO When You're Over Doing It


How to Hit UNDO When You're Over Doing It

Dear Eccentric Performer (yes you),

Are you feeling worn down? Exhausted? Like… “Oh my god how could I POSSIBLY do another audition/show/networking event again? - My feet are tired, and my hair is a goddam mess. If I have to put on another cute outfit and fake a smile and say hello to one more person I’m going to actually throw my left shoe at someone’s face”? If so, this post is for you


Let me tell you something you may not expect to read on a life coach's blog. 

Do less


So much of our modern culture is based on 1 equation: Do more, Get more

DO more at your auditions - GET more gigs, DO another class GET more success.  DO another squat - GET buns of steel. Do more, BELT HIGHER, TURN FASTER oh and don’t forget to SELL IT HONEY! Now don't get me wrong, doing things and getting things is fantastic. There's nothing quite like the rush of doing something you didn't think you could do and getting amazing results from it.

But DOING things is only half of the equation - and over doing it is costing you dearly. The more you do, the more you get, so you can do more and get more and do more and get more and OH MY GOD somewhere along the way you did everything, GOT 20 face creams you don’t use, 2 herniated disks in your back and 0 sense of accomplishment, joy, or fun. 


You’ve done EVERYTHING yet feel like you’ve got NOTHING

There is a missing piece in the DO - GET equation, friend



Just BE

- ‘Scuze me what?

Take a deep breath - right where you are. Think of that thing you want more than anything - A lead on Broadway? A series regular? An audition for an amazing pilot?

Ask yourself 2 questions:

  1. “To get what I REALLY want, who would it require me to BE?”

    inspired? playful? peaceful? excited? present? genuine? driven?

  2. “If I were truly BEING those things… What would it require me to DO?”


Who you are BEING in the face of your dream has as much to do with you having it as what you are DOING

“Yeah but Kyle, if I don’t DO things, I won’t get what I want!” CORRECT! And if you’re DOING all of those things BEING resentful, uninspired, inauthentic, silent, and anxious… Even if you GET what you want (good luck with that), you will never truly HAVE it. You will continue on the Do-Get spiral until you break

So, I feel you asking - How do I BE more?

You gotta feed it and encourage it to grow within you. What makes you FEEL inspired, or playful, or peaceful, or excited or present? Feed THOSE things in your life. Just for a bit, focus a little less on what you’re doing and a little more on your being (hint: they should feel like a RELIEF). Go take a damn bath surrounded by candles and listen to Indigo Girls, boo. Go hang out with your friends who inspire you and have a good laugh/cry. Make a list of the things you’re proud of that you’ve already accomplished and put that shit on your FRIDGE. The possibilities are endless.


When your BEING informs your DOING, then you can truly HAVE what you want without feeling like you’re going to lose your mind/throw shoes at faces

Go DO a little less, and BE a little more

Feel foreign? Sacrilegious even? I bet you have questions. Well I’m an EXPERT on this topic and I’ve guided many artists through this distinction

If you’re BEING curious about how I can help you

CONTACT ME and let’s chat!


3 Game-Changing Life Secrets I Learned on My Way to Broadway Drag Realness


3 Game-Changing Life Secrets I Learned on My Way to Broadway Drag Realness

Before we start today, I need you to get a VERY clear mental picture of the life coach who is currently writing this blog.


I’m a grown man, makeup covering my face, shirtless, in a pair of flesh toned tights looking like a strange version of a naked Barbie doll

So how did I get here and why the hell am I writing a blog in this state? VERY good questions, friend.

The answer is: I discovered some secrets about success in my journey to this place and I’m here to share them with you. Those secrets are:

  1. We SHOW UP when we allow ourselves to play.

  2. We all have voices in our heads.

  3. We can choose which voice to empower— and that makes all the difference in the world.

First, let’s back up a few years…

Category Is: Flashback

There I am, a very non-dancer in an audition room full of Broadway’s best male dancers all vying for six coveted roles in a highly hyped show coming to Broadway.

The Tony Award-winning director/choreographer shows us the dance combination. The first bit I can totally do.

“Whew, I got this. Maybe I won’t blow it like I do most dance calls.”


Then… Then comes a double pirouette (which I can’t do) into a cartwheel (which I can’t do) into the splits (which I DEFINITELY can’t do).

A lump forms in my throat, a knot grows in my stomach and an all too familiar voice whispers in my ear, “You can’t do this. You’re gonna look so stupid. You should just grab your bag, duck out of the room and go home right now.”

I instinctively feel my hands reach for my bag as my eyes search for an escape route when out of nowhere another voice dials in, “Hey Kyle, you are not quitting. You can either finish this dance call, not look like everyone else and HATE every second of it, or you can finish this dance call, not look like everyone else and find a way to have FUN.”

I quickly grab a piece of gum out of my bag. When we get called to do the dance in groups of three with everyone watching, I pop the piece of gum in my mouth and start chomping for the gods. I happily chomp through the first section that I could do, creating a fun ditzy character on the spot.

When it comes to the pirouette-cartwheel-splits trifecta from hell… I stand in the dead center of the room, pull the gum out of my mouth and twist it around my fingers squawking, “Wooooork giiiiirl,” as I watch the other two dancers around me successfully nail the bit I couldn’t dream of doing.

I finish the audition and turn to my friend with a grin and say, “I’m either going to book this, or never work in this town again.”



Little did I know, that decision not to quit and decide to have fun would land me a role as an original Angel in Kinky Boots on Broadway where I currently sit in naked Barbie regalia writing this blog.

The moment I realized I had a CHOICE which voice to empower is what inspired me to become a trained life coach. My goal is to help people quiet the vampire voices, empower their inner badass, and chomp their proverbial gum towards living a life they adore.

So let’s unpack three life secrets I learned from that audition, shall we?

Have Fun in the Face of Fear


We show up when we grant ourselves permission to play. Wait, pause the TIVO. Rewind.


This is a big one and one of the reasons I love Mark Fisher Fitness so much. They excel at this.

Playing, having fun, and acting like a little kid releases our need to get it right. It opens up a new space in our minds and bodies to explore, and that’s a big fucking deal.

It’s not just about physically showing up: to work, auditions, first dates, the gym. It’s about showing up as our authentic, vulnerable, quirky, colorful, funky, perfectly imperfect selves.

What I learned in that gum-chomp moment was that finding a way to have FUN in the face of fear allows us to access all of the things we love about ourselves and that shit is infectious.

The confidence in showing up as your playful, authentic self is like a magnet for what you want. And it’s visible to everyone around you.

Imagine something you’re facing right now that sounds daunting. What would it be like to grant yourself permission to play?!

We All Have Voices

We all have voices in our heads – one voice that tells us we suck and another that tells us the opposite.


Call it what you want: a saboteur, gremlin, vampire, inner critic. Every human being since the dawn of time has an internal voice that whispers nasty things about ourselves.

Mine told me I was going to look dumb so I should quit. That voice’s purpose is to keep us from rocking the boat and it will be with us until we die. The closer we get to what we really want, the louder that voice gets.

The good news is – there’s another voice. Some call it their inner leader, higher voice, captain, or superhero. It’s a voice of wisdom, clarity, courage and compassion.

This is the voice in your mind and heart that has been there and back again and believes in you completely. It’s been with you your entire life and is as much a part of you as the gremlins.

This voice told me, “You’re not quitting, take a risk show them who you really are.”

You Change the World When You Change Your Voice

Choosing which voice to empower makes all the difference in the world. We are not the voices in our heads, and the voices are not the absolute truth. They’re just that, voices.

But here’s the thing, when we’re aware of what they are, we have a choice which voice to empower. Had I listened to my self-sabotaging voice, there’s a good chance I wouldn’t be backstage at Kinky Boots writing this to you. And there’s absolutely no chance I would have allowed myself to grab that piece of gum and have fun in the face of fear.

The more conscious of each voice we become, the more of a weekly, daily, hourly—on a moment’s notice—CHOICE we have over which voice to give power to.

What do you want in life? What are the voices in your head saying about that desire? Which voice will empower you the most? And what difference would it make to add some fun and play along the way?

Want some help with those voices?





Over the years I have gotten to coach some incredible clients. I thought I would showcase some of them and what they have graciously shared about their experience coaching together (though it's not really a showdown cuz everyone's a winner).

let's get started!




(Cue Price is Right music)

This is Devon (and a cute dog).  Devon is a fearless, BADASS woman. When she walks in the room, you know you're in the presence of a powerhouse.  She's the light at the end of the tunnel that lets you know you're not alone. Singer, songwriter, caregiver extraordinaire and all around bombshell - DEVON!

Here's what she has to say about Kyle Post Coaching:

"I have been with Kyle for about 6 months now...and quite honestly I didn't know how much I needed it until my first session. Money was tight, schedules were busy, and I felt lost. I needed to find direction again. My life has been different since I first walked through his doors.
Kyle doesn't tell you how to feel. He doesn't sit there brooding asking, "and how do you FEEL about that." He doesn't hold you while you cry, rub your back and say, "awwwww." Instead, he helps YOU figure it out. He lets you feel what you need to feel then asks YOU how you want to proceed. He works WITH you together to build that map which helps YOU decide which step to take next whether it be financial, career, love, life...(literally anything).
He has helped me create a Tool Box of life, with many tools that I can access when I need it the most. He has become my unbiased guardian angel, if you will, and I wouldn't trade one moment of my time with him for anything. I notice a huge difference in myself in these few short months we've been together...and I can't wait to continue to grow."

I definitely teared up reading that one.  Thank you Devon for being the kind, trusting, loyal powerhouse woman you are and for sharing your experience coaching together!

Interested in coaching together?

and let's chat


Fun with Failure

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Fun with Failure

I often start my first session with clients with a question: "What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?"  It's so much fun to hear the list of beautiful/crazy/amazing/inspiring ideas flow freely from them... Another winner is: "What would you be willing to fail OVER and OVER and OVER for?"  Things tend to get a little deeper there when they hone down on what it is in their life that is WORTH facing the thought of failure. 

Today my question is:

What is your relationship to failure? 

Are you buddies? Enemies? Frienemies?

Our relationship with failure can get real dark.  It can cause total self paralysis and self judgement.  It can keep us from doing what we say we want in life. It can make us try to convince ourselves and others that we're actually PERFECT and have never failed and never will fail and Couldn'tEvenImagineFailingEverInOurLivesBecauseWe'rePerfectSoTHERE! (Good luck with that)

Notice I didn't say FAILURE does all of those things.  Failure actually doesn't do ANY of those things.  Our dysfunctional RELATIONSHIP to failure does those things.  OOOOooooooo. 

So what if failure was actually a step closer to getting what you want? If it allowed for learning? What if failure had a feeling of PLAY? What if you could have fun with failure?

Here's an assignment I've given clients

if you're up for it I'm posing it to you:


Go to your local craft/office supply store.  Find the silliest dumbest most Lisa Frank 7th grade Trapper Keeper stickers you can... let's say 50 of them. Carry the stickers around with you at all times, and give yourself a gold star/monster truck/bedazzled dolphin swimming over a rainbow sticker every time you fail for a WEEK and actually try to get rid of all 50 stickers in one week. 

Got pissy with your boyfriend for no reason? FAIL! STICKER! Tried a new recipe for dinner and it caught on fire? FAIL! STICKER! Went to an audition and totally cracked on the high note? FAIL! STICKER! Forgot to count a failure and give yourself a sticker? FAIL! STICKER!

This assignment is not about counting failures- it's about changing our RELATIONSHIP to it so that instead of self-paralysis and not doing what we want to do, we can have a little fun with it and see it's not such a big deal in the first place.  It's just failure.  That's it.  The rest is the story we've attached to it... so go attach a big fat fuzzy sticker instead of the dark story that's keeping you from doing what you love with full authenticity and self expression.

Go fail! Have fun! Let me know how it goes, I'd love to hear


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Top 100 on the Web!


Top 100 on the Web!

The Wildly Authentic Blog was just awarded

"Top 100 Life Coach Blogs on the Web"

By Feedspot 

How fun is THAT?!

Scroll on down past industry leading blog after blog (some of which I follow and deeply admire) and you'll find this 'lil old blog on the list!  #blessed #humbled #cheesyhashtag

When I started this blog just over a year ago I wanted to make something that spoke from my heart that hopefully spoke to my reader's hearts as well.  When I hear from people how something in the blog made them think, or changed their outlook, or gave them a little giggle it brightens my day.

So getting awarded Top 100 Life Coach Blogs makes me all:

Thanks so much for being a part of this blog! I hope you enjoy many more Wildly Authentic (slightly insane) posts to come :)




You Are Judge Judy


You Are Judge Judy

You are Judge Judy

You may not have a gavel or dated permed-bob-hairdo...

But you are Judge Judy

You judge the person who cut you off on the highway.  You judge your co-worker's sketchy Instagram account.  You do.  I do.  We all do.  

But here's where it gets really sinister:

You judge yourself

You judge yourself so much, so often and so harshly.

I recently had an eye opening session with a client who had just started working at a job she'd always dreamed of. While she was fulfilled by many aspects of the new gig,  it turned out some parts of her "dream job" were not so savory: She felt constrained by her workspace, had a bat shit crazy boss, and felt like she was being micromanaged nonstop. 

Her comments looked something like this:

"I should just be grateful for this job, that's what my friends and family keep saying!"

"I want to be positive about it, but I just keep thinking I shouldn't be complaining about a job I wanted so bad!"

I told her it sounded like she was judging herself for not having the perfect experience at her dream job.

She paused and agreed

I asked "What percent of your turmoil here is being caused by judging yourself?"

Cue 30 seconds of radio silence until she finally answered: 


60-70% of the turmoil at her new job was caused not by her boss, or her cramped workspace... but by HER. It was caused by judging how she thought she "should or shouldn't" be feeling.  The second she saw that, the whole thing opened up and we were able to work together to create a life at her imperfect-dream-job that she was inspired by.

We Are Judge Judy

We judge how we're feeling, how we're not feeling, how we should be feeling, how we shouldn't be feeling, what we're eating, what we're not eating, what we should be eating, what we look like, what we don't look like, what we shouldn't look like, what we say, what we didn't say, what we shouldn't say...

and it's FUCKING exhausting

It can be SO exhausting that we aren't able to focus on the REAL problems we're facing because we're so damn busy judging ourselves.


So my questions to you are: 

Where are you Judge Judying yourself?*

What would it be like to let go of the self-judgements?

What space would that create for you?



*Note: Acknowledging shortcomings/taking responsibility are NOT THE SAME AS JUDGE JUDYING*