How to High Five a Brighter Happier YOU!

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How to High Five a Brighter Happier YOU!


Today, let's shine a light on Kyle Post Coaching client, John Noble Barrack! John is a goddamn rockstar at life - one of the most open hearted, authentic, generous people you're gonna find in this crazy profession. Here's what he had to say about what he got from coaching together:


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"I have made INCREDIBLE CHANGES, faced uncertainty, and RISKED GREATLY in my personal and professional life all while feeling SUPPORTED and ENCOURAGED. I found difficult truths that I'd buried. I regained parts of myself I'd thought I'd lost.

I high-fived a new, BRIGHTER, HAPPIER self with each passing week!

As a person and as an artist, Kyle shepherded me towards my dreams and goals"

OOOOOOOO *Insert shoulder shimmy HERE!* 


* Ready to risk greatly? 

* Wanna high five a new, brighter, happier self?

* Looking for a weird-ass shepherd towards your dreams and goals?




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WEIRD WORKS!

I recently wrote this guest blog post for one of my favorite sites, The Ensemblist. Check them out for all things Broadway, theater, dreams, and a peek behind the curtain of the entertainment industry from the perspective of those who help make it happen - The ensemble!

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I was getting ready to go in for a ‘mover’s call’ for a new show coming to Broadway called Kinky Boots. I’m by no means a dancer, so any time a dance call comes up in an audition process I normally wave bye bye to the dream of doing that show. 

“But this is a mover’s call, I’ll be fine,” I halfheartedly whisper to myself as I sheepishly walk into the audition room full of men warming up touching their toes to their tongues. 

We start the combination and it was easy enough… until it gets into an inside double pirouette (which I can’t do), into a cartwheel (which I can’t do), into the splits (which I definitely can’t do). A lump forms in my throat and an all too familiar voice pops into my head saying, “You can’t do this. You’re going to look so stupid. You should grab your bag, sneak out the door and run to Arriba Arriba to drown your sorrows into a Mama Margarita.”


Without hesitation, my feet follow that voice and head for the door when another voice pops into my head: “Hey Kyle, you are not going to chicken out. You got this. Find a way to show them your weird, quirky self and let’s just see what happens.”

I chose to listen to voice number two, grabbed a piece of gum out of my bag, and started chomping furiously while they called names in groups of three. 

I’m dead center, there’s a guy to my right and a guy to my left. We start the choreography and I make up a ditzy, gum chomping, fun loving character on the spot. When we get to the dreaded double-cartwheel-splits of death, I stand dead center, pull the gum out of my mouth and twist it around my finger and exclaim  “Woooooooooooork!” while watching the other two do the choreography I couldn’t dream of doing.


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And, honey, guess who booked the gig? The gum twirling, non-dancing fool who chose to have fun instead of ducking out for a margarita. On the first day of rehearsal, the associate choreographer pulled me aside and told me that in all of his years of running Broadway dance calls, he had never seen anyone take the chances I took… and that’s what booked me the job. I was fortunate enough to do the entire run of Kinky Boots (and no, my ankles have not yet recovered). I got to be on the Tonys, the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, and plastered on the side of a doubledecker bus in full beat drag. I met my husband backstage. Those Kinky Boots helped buy us an apartment in Chelsea. Let that sink in. The choice to showcase my inner weirdo instead of my inner critic… bought an apartment.

Never in my life have I had such clear real life proof that weird works. Zoom out a bit, and that moment in the dance call taught me something even greater. We hide ourselves to feel less vulnerable, to feel safe, to feel in control. We think it’s helping us survive, but it’s an illusion. Hiding our weird, wonderful, unique, zany, eccentric whole selves actually costs us greatly. It costs us gigs, joy, money, fun, and the experience of being truly seen.

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In the end, that’s our job isn’t it? To be truly and deeply seen by other human beings. The thing we’re hiding is likely the very thing people are dying to relate to. I’m calling all you weirdos (yes, you) to come out of the darkness. Take a big bold terrifying step, hop, or leap and show up in your auditions, in your performances, with your friends, and in your dating life (yes, there’s space for weird in romance). The world needs you, and we are begging to see you wave that freak flag high.  

As a trained life coach, it’s my life’s mission to help eccentric performers take that leap and get the crazy artistic success that’s waiting for them on the other side. I’ve got a brand spankin’ new six week online group program called “The Weirdo’s Way” where we’ll do just that. Come jump in the weird waters with me. It’s nice and warm in here.

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The Over/Under Performer's Quiz

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The Over/Under Performer's Quiz

Remember when we were in middle school and we’d take those Teen Magazine Quizzes on - if you were a popsicle, what kind of popsicle would you be and why?

I DO!

(I was the crazy one with 20 colors and gum inside)

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback/questions on the past 2 blog posts about OVER doing it and UNDER doing it. People have been asking - KYLE! WHICH ONE AM I?!

Well guess what? I have a quiz for you to find out… You won’t find out which kind of popsicle you are, but you WILL learn valuable information for where you could use a little attention to have your career take off!

Well what are you waiting for?

What was your answer? Contact me and let me know! I’ve got lots of solutions to help with your over/under problem :)

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How to Overcome UNDER Doing It

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How to Overcome UNDER Doing It

I have a confession to make:

I’m a Gemini. My brain works in contradictions - it thinks this AND that - it sees the value in both sides of the spectrum. So to appease my Gemini brain that I love so dearly, I bring you a blog post on the OTHER side of the spectrum from my post last week about performers who are OVER DOING IT


Dear Eccentric Performer,

Do you have a sneaking suspicion the world is passing you by? Are you a procrastination QUEEN?! Do you have a shit ton of amazing ideas and thoughts and intuitions about the exciting things you want to do with your life… and SOME DAY you will do them?! You SWEAR SOME DAY you will do them… and then turns out “some day” looks more like you eating gummy bears on your couch at 2am watching the Golden Girls with half a bottle of white wine, scrolling through the instagram of everyone else doing the things you said you wanted to do so bad?

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If so, THIS blog is for you

Some people in life are GREAT at doing things. They get so much done in a day they can make Beyonce look like… well, like Michelle. When those type of people are out of balance and doing too much, they pay with their BEING as stated in last week’s post. Other people are great at paying attention to their BEING (these people may be found lounging in hot baths listening to Enya with a single tear running down their face thinking how sad and beautiful the world can be). That’s you, my dear. You are GREAT at being in touch with your feelings, emotions, intuitions… the softer side of Sears. When YOU are out of balance… the DOING side of you suffers and you end up stagnate, a wee depressed/anxious about not having the things you want.

DOING THINGS IS SCARY

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I get it. Doing things like GOING to auditions, CALLING your agent, CREATING that one man show you’ve been dreaming of, WRITING that script… it’s scary. It takes such bravery and willingness to fail. But guess what? SOME DAY NEVER HAPPENS. Now THAT’S scary. It never happens. You have to MAKE your some day happen cuz aint nobody gonna do it for you.

HOW DO I MAKE MY SOME DAY HAPPEN?!

1) Take all of your amazing BEING superpowers and infuse them into an idea that excites you more than you can handle. It should make your butt pucker in a good way.

2) Set a goal for yourself that is SMART:

Specific - It’s a real thing that can be seen in the real world that’s uniquely your own

Measurable - There is a date/time/location set for when this will be a successful reality

Accountable - A real life human is holding you accountable to doing these things (not just you)

Resonant - It’s something that makes you feel more like YOU than anything

Thrilling - You stay up at night thinking about it with excitement, and can’t wait to tell your friends all about it

OK NOW YOU TRY!

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This doesn’t work by thinking about it, reading another book on it, or praying on it over a blood moon my friend. This works by taking ACTION. Let you BEING inform your DOING and you get to HAVE what you want…

Let’s make it ACCOUNTABLE - Write down your SMART goal and email it to me. I double dog dare you. You deserve to live a balanced life - you deserve to have Enya in a bathtub AND the performing career you always dreamed of. It takes BEING and DOING… Now go DO IT!

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How to Hit UNDO When You're Over Doing It

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How to Hit UNDO When You're Over Doing It

Dear Eccentric Performer (yes you),

Are you feeling worn down? Exhausted? Like… “Oh my god how could I POSSIBLY do another audition/show/networking event again? - My feet are tired, and my hair is a goddam mess. If I have to put on another cute outfit and fake a smile and say hello to one more person I’m going to actually throw my left shoe at someone’s face”? If so, this post is for you

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Let me tell you something you may not expect to read on a life coach's blog. 

Do less

WHAT?!

So much of our modern culture is based on 1 equation: Do more, Get more

DO more at your auditions - GET more gigs, DO another class GET more success.  DO another squat - GET buns of steel. Do more, BELT HIGHER, TURN FASTER oh and don’t forget to SELL IT HONEY! Now don't get me wrong, doing things and getting things is fantastic. There's nothing quite like the rush of doing something you didn't think you could do and getting amazing results from it.

But DOING things is only half of the equation - and over doing it is costing you dearly. The more you do, the more you get, so you can do more and get more and do more and get more and OH MY GOD somewhere along the way you did everything, GOT 20 face creams you don’t use, 2 herniated disks in your back and 0 sense of accomplishment, joy, or fun. 

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You’ve done EVERYTHING yet feel like you’ve got NOTHING

There is a missing piece in the DO - GET equation, friend

BE

-Huh?

Just BE

- ‘Scuze me what?

Take a deep breath - right where you are. Think of that thing you want more than anything - A lead on Broadway? A series regular? An audition for an amazing pilot?

Ask yourself 2 questions:

  1. “To get what I REALLY want, who would it require me to BE?”

    inspired? playful? peaceful? excited? present? genuine? driven?

  2. “If I were truly BEING those things… What would it require me to DO?”


BE - DO - HAVE

Who you are BEING in the face of your dream has as much to do with you having it as what you are DOING

“Yeah but Kyle, if I don’t DO things, I won’t get what I want!” CORRECT! And if you’re DOING all of those things BEING resentful, uninspired, inauthentic, silent, and anxious… Even if you GET what you want (good luck with that), you will never truly HAVE it. You will continue on the Do-Get spiral until you break

So, I feel you asking - How do I BE more?

You gotta feed it and encourage it to grow within you. What makes you FEEL inspired, or playful, or peaceful, or excited or present? Feed THOSE things in your life. Just for a bit, focus a little less on what you’re doing and a little more on your being (hint: they should feel like a RELIEF). Go take a damn bath surrounded by candles and listen to Indigo Girls, boo. Go hang out with your friends who inspire you and have a good laugh/cry. Make a list of the things you’re proud of that you’ve already accomplished and put that shit on your FRIDGE. The possibilities are endless.

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When your BEING informs your DOING, then you can truly HAVE what you want without feeling like you’re going to lose your mind/throw shoes at faces

Go DO a little less, and BE a little more

Feel foreign? Sacrilegious even? I bet you have questions. Well I’m an EXPERT on this topic and I’ve guided many artists through this distinction


If you’re BEING curious about how I can help you

CONTACT ME and let’s chat!


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3 Game-Changing Life Secrets I Learned on My Way to Broadway Drag Realness

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3 Game-Changing Life Secrets I Learned on My Way to Broadway Drag Realness

Before we start today, I need you to get a VERY clear mental picture of the life coach who is currently writing this blog.

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I’m a grown man, makeup covering my face, shirtless, in a pair of flesh toned tights looking like a strange version of a naked Barbie doll

So how did I get here and why the hell am I writing a blog in this state? VERY good questions, friend.

The answer is: I discovered some secrets about success in my journey to this place and I’m here to share them with you. Those secrets are:

  1. We SHOW UP when we allow ourselves to play.

  2. We all have voices in our heads.

  3. We can choose which voice to empower— and that makes all the difference in the world.

First, let’s back up a few years…

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There I am, a very non-dancer in an audition room full of Broadway’s best male dancers all vying for six coveted roles in a highly hyped show coming to Broadway.

The Tony Award-winning director/choreographer shows us the dance combination. The first bit I can totally do.

“Whew, I got this. Maybe I won’t blow it like I do most dance calls.”

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Then… Then comes a double pirouette (which I can’t do) into a cartwheel (which I can’t do) into the splits (which I DEFINITELY can’t do).

A lump forms in my throat, a knot grows in my stomach and an all too familiar voice whispers in my ear, “You can’t do this. You’re gonna look so stupid. You should just grab your bag, duck out of the room and go home right now.”

I instinctively feel my hands reach for my bag as my eyes search for an escape route when out of nowhere another voice dials in, “Hey Kyle, you are not quitting. You can either finish this dance call, not look like everyone else and HATE every second of it, or you can finish this dance call, not look like everyone else and find a way to have FUN.”

I quickly grab a piece of gum out of my bag. When we get called to do the dance in groups of three with everyone watching, I pop the piece of gum in my mouth and start chomping for the gods. I happily chomp through the first section that I could do, creating a fun ditzy character on the spot.

When it comes to the pirouette-cartwheel-splits trifecta from hell… I stand in the dead center of the room, pull the gum out of my mouth and twist it around my fingers squawking, “Wooooork giiiiirl,” as I watch the other two dancers around me successfully nail the bit I couldn’t dream of doing.

I finish the audition and turn to my friend with a grin and say, “I’m either going to book this, or never work in this town again.”

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Little did I know, that decision not to quit and decide to have fun would land me a role as an original Angel in Kinky Boots on Broadway where I currently sit in naked Barbie regalia writing this blog.

The moment I realized I had a CHOICE which voice to empower is what inspired me to become a trained life coach. My goal is to help people quiet the vampire voices, empower their inner badass, and chomp their proverbial gum towards living a life they adore.

So let’s unpack three life secrets I learned from that audition, shall we?

Have Fun in the Face of Fear

 

We show up when we grant ourselves permission to play. Wait, pause the TIVO. Rewind.

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This is a big one and one of the reasons I love Mark Fisher Fitness so much. They excel at this.

Playing, having fun, and acting like a little kid releases our need to get it right. It opens up a new space in our minds and bodies to explore, and that’s a big fucking deal.

It’s not just about physically showing up: to work, auditions, first dates, the gym. It’s about showing up as our authentic, vulnerable, quirky, colorful, funky, perfectly imperfect selves.

What I learned in that gum-chomp moment was that finding a way to have FUN in the face of fear allows us to access all of the things we love about ourselves and that shit is infectious.

The confidence in showing up as your playful, authentic self is like a magnet for what you want. And it’s visible to everyone around you.

Imagine something you’re facing right now that sounds daunting. What would it be like to grant yourself permission to play?!

We All Have Voices

We all have voices in our heads – one voice that tells us we suck and another that tells us the opposite.

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Call it what you want: a saboteur, gremlin, vampire, inner critic. Every human being since the dawn of time has an internal voice that whispers nasty things about ourselves.

Mine told me I was going to look dumb so I should quit. That voice’s purpose is to keep us from rocking the boat and it will be with us until we die. The closer we get to what we really want, the louder that voice gets.

The good news is – there’s another voice. Some call it their inner leader, higher voice, captain, or superhero. It’s a voice of wisdom, clarity, courage and compassion.

This is the voice in your mind and heart that has been there and back again and believes in you completely. It’s been with you your entire life and is as much a part of you as the gremlins.

This voice told me, “You’re not quitting, take a risk show them who you really are.”

You Change the World When You Change Your Voice

Choosing which voice to empower makes all the difference in the world. We are not the voices in our heads, and the voices are not the absolute truth. They’re just that, voices.

But here’s the thing, when we’re aware of what they are, we have a choice which voice to empower. Had I listened to my self-sabotaging voice, there’s a good chance I wouldn’t be backstage at Kinky Boots writing this to you. And there’s absolutely no chance I would have allowed myself to grab that piece of gum and have fun in the face of fear.

The more conscious of each voice we become, the more of a weekly, daily, hourly—on a moment’s notice—CHOICE we have over which voice to give power to.

What do you want in life? What are the voices in your head saying about that desire? Which voice will empower you the most? And what difference would it make to add some fun and play along the way?


Want some help with those voices?

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SHOWCASE SHOWDOWN!

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SHOWCASE SHOWDOWN!

Over the years I have gotten to coach some incredible clients. I thought I would showcase some of them and what they have graciously shared about their experience coaching together (though it's not really a showdown cuz everyone's a winner).

let's get started!


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DEVON YATES

COME ON DOWN!!!

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This is Devon (and a cute dog).  Devon is a fearless, BADASS woman. When she walks in the room, you know you're in the presence of a powerhouse.  She's the light at the end of the tunnel that lets you know you're not alone. Singer, songwriter, caregiver extraordinaire and all around bombshell - DEVON!


Here's what she has to say about Kyle Post Coaching:

"I have been with Kyle for about 6 months now...and quite honestly I didn't know how much I needed it until my first session. Money was tight, schedules were busy, and I felt lost. I needed to find direction again. My life has been different since I first walked through his doors.
Kyle doesn't tell you how to feel. He doesn't sit there brooding asking, "and how do you FEEL about that." He doesn't hold you while you cry, rub your back and say, "awwwww." Instead, he helps YOU figure it out. He lets you feel what you need to feel then asks YOU how you want to proceed. He works WITH you together to build that map which helps YOU decide which step to take next whether it be financial, career, love, life...(literally anything).
He has helped me create a Tool Box of life, with many tools that I can access when I need it the most. He has become my unbiased guardian angel, if you will, and I wouldn't trade one moment of my time with him for anything. I notice a huge difference in myself in these few short months we've been together...and I can't wait to continue to grow."

I definitely teared up reading that one.  Thank you Devon for being the kind, trusting, loyal powerhouse woman you are and for sharing your experience coaching together!

Interested in coaching together?

and let's chat

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Fun with Failure

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Fun with Failure

I often start my first session with clients with a question: "What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?"  It's so much fun to hear the list of beautiful/crazy/amazing/inspiring ideas flow freely from them... Another winner is: "What would you be willing to fail OVER and OVER and OVER for?"  Things tend to get a little deeper there when they hone down on what it is in their life that is WORTH facing the thought of failure. 

Today my question is:

What is your relationship to failure? 

Are you buddies? Enemies? Frienemies?

Our relationship with failure can get real dark.  It can cause total self paralysis and self judgement.  It can keep us from doing what we say we want in life. It can make us try to convince ourselves and others that we're actually PERFECT and have never failed and never will fail and Couldn'tEvenImagineFailingEverInOurLivesBecauseWe'rePerfectSoTHERE! (Good luck with that)

Notice I didn't say FAILURE does all of those things.  Failure actually doesn't do ANY of those things.  Our dysfunctional RELATIONSHIP to failure does those things.  OOOOooooooo. 

So what if failure was actually a step closer to getting what you want? If it allowed for learning? What if failure had a feeling of PLAY? What if you could have fun with failure?

Here's an assignment I've given clients

if you're up for it I'm posing it to you:

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Go to your local craft/office supply store.  Find the silliest dumbest most Lisa Frank 7th grade Trapper Keeper stickers you can... let's say 50 of them. Carry the stickers around with you at all times, and give yourself a gold star/monster truck/bedazzled dolphin swimming over a rainbow sticker every time you fail for a WEEK and actually try to get rid of all 50 stickers in one week. 

Got pissy with your boyfriend for no reason? FAIL! STICKER! Tried a new recipe for dinner and it caught on fire? FAIL! STICKER! Went to an audition and totally cracked on the high note? FAIL! STICKER! Forgot to count a failure and give yourself a sticker? FAIL! STICKER!

This assignment is not about counting failures- it's about changing our RELATIONSHIP to it so that instead of self-paralysis and not doing what we want to do, we can have a little fun with it and see it's not such a big deal in the first place.  It's just failure.  That's it.  The rest is the story we've attached to it... so go attach a big fat fuzzy sticker instead of the dark story that's keeping you from doing what you love with full authenticity and self expression.

Go fail! Have fun! Let me know how it goes, I'd love to hear

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